Robert went on to tell us about an encounter he had in Portugal where he had met up with a young woman in one of the bars. Everything was going fine. She invited him back to her place. He went in the taxi with her. When they arrived and she invited him upstairs, he demurred. “I didn’t want to her to think it was her fault. I didn’t want to be put in that awkward situation, so I just returned to my hotel room. . . alone.”