Sometimes, porn isn’t the problem, but the solution. Have you tried reading erotica together? Not to toot my own horn, so to speak, but I’ve heard from a lot of readers that they like to read mysexlifewithlola together and that it provides a neutral, non-judgmental space for open dialogue about kinks, fantasies, and new possibilities. My man, HH, and I also watch porn together while in the act, but that’s a different story.